Whole or Whore?

 My Dear Readers,

"You can only be whole

when you learn how to 

walk in the shoes of others"

I am not sure whether you agree on the statement above...

This is a tricky one...

yet a simple one...

Let's first try to define what is being whole?

I did not said being a "whore"!

Being a "whore" is simple

you just sell your love down the river for material gain!

"not your body" - your "love"

if I wanted to mention a person selling their body for material gain I would use the 

word "prostitute" or "hooker"

there is a difference between them...

I just don't want to be misunderstood...

I respect the "prostitutes" aka "sex workers"

not the "whores"!;

because latter one is done by "Choice"!  

"Willingly", "Knowingly"

So where were we at!

Being "whole"

as you can see from our small discussion to be "whole"

first you need to stop being a "whore" regardless that 

if you are a "man", "woman" or "other" or "whatever" or "ever" or "never" or "blah blah blah" or "confused" or "asexual organisms choose mitosis" 

so first rule -> being whole = not being whore !

You may ask why?

Because if you are selling out on love, that is a clear indicator on 

you don't have the moral consciousness to worth love...

 

Secondly you need to know yourself.....

The second one is not very easy....knowing yourself is visiting yourself like a tourist on a museum tour..

it requires to evaluate you and your deeds objectively good or bad..

This one could take some time because some consciousness has to wake up

an ego is a great dragon to be slayed...

than you need to crush down the tower of self...

Thirdly you need to love....

Love unconditionally...... Even you have been stabbed in the back you need to fight the demons of revenge....and still give love

of course to love this much you need to get the fourth thing done at the same time as well

Fourthly you need to learn how to convert duality in your favor....

I am trying to mean "you need to convert dark into light!"

 again to these you need the certain capabilities and wisdom..

Fifth you need to learn the nature of the grand laws governing  

As you can see to save others or to feel what other feel to have sympathy of others 

first requires a journey of self discovery first...

Assuming you want to empathize with others in a healthy way..

If you cannot love yourself

you cannot be expected to be able to love others

If you cannot be truthful to yourself

you cannot be expected to be truthful to others

If you cannot be committed to yourself

you cannot be expected to be committed to others

If you cannot be happy with your own company

you cannot be expected to be happy with the company of others..

Everything start with you...

if you can reduce your own suffering 

than you can be expected to reduce the suffering of others..

only if you know yourself

you can know others

which requires being whole..

This is extending yourself...

leaving behind "you animal"

to become a 

being 

a "human being"

(Painting: Čeština -Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec 1864–1901)

You can’t

Find

Anyone

Unless

You find

Yourself

First.

             King H. Ironson

           (From: About you)